I know it’s now 2019 but in order to crush the year ahead I needed to reflect and take stock of the last year because I plan to continue building upon it. I feel in order for anyone to move forward you have to look long and hard at yourself over the previous twelve months both personally and professionally. So I sat down with a pen and paper (with a glass of wine in front of a fire) and started jotting down 30 things I learned in 2018. I’m not going to lie, I kinda borrowed (stole) this idea from Audrey McClelland of MomGenerations. But she did 50.
Yet before I go ahead with my list I think I should share a little back story. 2018 started out rough but turned into one of my best years to date. I was and am still in chronic back pain but the way I deal with it has changed so dramatically I can not believe it. Mostly it had to do with a mind shift nearly halfway through the year that all began with my journey of mediation. I had taken my son to what I thought was a mediation for kids. It wasn’t. I stayed and left blown away. I had found a new way to relieve my pain. Mediation has brought such happiness and lightness to my life. I now focus on what’s truly important and the things that are not I just let go of (like popping a bubble).
As I sat and reflected the one word that kept coming back to me was “gratitude.” So I decided to make that my word for 2019. I am so grateful for the amazing people I met last year and even more grateful for the strength I showed in letting go of the ones who no longer brought me joy. I let them go because I realized they were negative and I don’t need that energy in my life.
And since we are the Fountain Of 30, I thought I should list 30 things I learned in 2018. It’s a random stream of consciousness and not in any particular order. More of a brain dump, if you will.
30 Things I Learned in 2018
I learned to be grateful and show gratitude.
I learned to appreciate what my body can do and not focus on what it can’t.
I learned to believe in myself and trust my gut. Take that risk.
I learned I say “sorry’ too much and that is going to end.
I learned it’s OK to walk away from people who bring you down, no matter how long you have known them.
I learned to breathe, really breathe, like into my stomach.
I learned to not be jealous. We all have good days and we all have bad days. It all evens out.
I learned the only thing I can control in life is me. Realizing I can’t control situations and/or outcomes is so freeing.
I learned that my sons are turning into their own little people and I love it, but they are pulling away which I don’t love. Such is life.
I learned I love to meditate which is surprising since I am Type A. (Now I’m an A minus).
I learned it’s OK to say no.
I learned to live in the moment. The past is gone.
I learned every day is a gift and a new beginning.
I learned there is a hippie living inside of me and I am embracing her. I even wear crystals now. I want to move to Sea Cliff. Who am I?
I learned that the new PS4 we got the kids was a huge mistake. Instead of bringing them together to play, they fight more.
I learned I really want another dog. It’s not just the kids.
I learned to go after my dreams and that you’re never too old to have them.
I learned to shut up more and listen.
I learned to be more sympathetic.
I learned you’re never too old to learn and the day you do, you die.
I learned self-love is the best love.
I learned I can no longer drink on an empty stomach and truth be told, I really can’t drink that much anymore.
I learned I really don’t care for rosé.
I learned it’s OK to ask for help when you are in the weeds.
I learned I miss writing. I spend so much time on the other business facets of blogging and social media I don’t write enough anymore.
I learned I want to write a book. Subject is being flushed out.
I learned to let go of my anger and it feels awesome. In doing so I notice I have more friends which is an added bonus.
I learned there are a lot of selfish people out there, but there are also a lot of amazing selfless people too.
I learned I need to be less judgemental. I came a long way in 2018 but want to really hone in on this in 2019. Practicing non-judgment is really hard.
I learned I need to take notice of the chemicals I put on my body, not just into it. I will venture even further into green beauty in 2019.
I learned that mediation actually gives me more time because it helps me focus on what’s important.
I learned not to chase my own tail.
I learned I am a good friend.
I learned had I known how much I loved being a mom I would have started earlier and had 6 kids!
I learned to have faith in the universe and what you put out there you will get back.
I learned I can’t count to 30.
I’m ready for you 2019. Let’s do this!
Happy New Year!
What things have you learned in 2018?
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